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We continued our S.C.U.B.A. classes this morning with more
videos, some discussion and a written test. We moved into the water in the
afternoon and got our first taste of breathing under water. It was really
fun, but not quite what I expected. I think it is harder to learn with
equipment that is not "just right" for you. For example I had a mask that
wouldn't stay clear. I think mom and Jennifer had the same problem with
their masks.
The surf was also very rough and since we were so close to the shore line every
wave pushed us closer to the shore.
For dinner we ventured further into the heart of the island and
went to "Rick's American Cafe" where I had some of the best pork ribs. Jen
and Mom weren't all that impressed with the food, but I liked the ambiance too.
The patio we ate on was built about 60 feet off the ground and had a tree house
feel to it. Rick, the owner, came by and even shared the company of his
pet parrot with us.
We spent the afternoon in the water working on more skills in
about 10 feet of water. We spent about 2 hours in the water. About
an hour into it Mom expressed some concerns and finally decided that
S.C.U.B.A. diving wasn't for her and she would rather sit on the beach and read.
Jennifer expressed some similar concerns, but stuck to it so as not to
disappoint me.
We had a quick lunch at the Argentinean Grill of hamburgers and
French fries and then headed back to the dive shop so we could head out to the
reef to do our first open water dive. The boat ride out was a little rocky
and Jen's nerves along with her tendency toward motion sickness made the ride
out and suiting up pretty uncomfortable for her. She was fine once we were
in the water,
but I wasn't sure if we were going to get that far.
As we descended to 30 feet into a sandy patch between the coral
I couldn't help but smile at how beautifully cool the sensation and the view
was, which was counter productive as every time I did water seeped into my mask.
We stayed on the bottom for 40 minutes 10 minutes on skills like flooding our
masks and breathing off our partner's air supply, then went exploring the coral
shelf. We saw all kinds of exotic fish, coral, and other marine life.
Jen and I were simply amazed.
For dinner we went to the "Monkey
Bar" where we had lasagna. The "Monkey Bar's" claim to fame are
seats hanging
around the bar. The lasagna was pretty good, but different as it had no
red sauce or cheese.
We went to the dive shop this morning and watched more videos
and talked some more about what we were going to be doing that afternoon.
In the afternoon we went out on the boat for a deeper water dive and then our
last dive to 60 feet, where we would practice more skills and get a better look
around.
The seas were much calmer and we had Jennifer all suited up
before we got out to the dive site which made for a faster water entry as well
as a less upset stomach on her part. She was also excited about going
today which calmed her nerves a bit. I was excited to be going to 60 feet,
although in the end it isn't all that different than going to 40 feet. We
had a bright sunny day
and the coral and fish were again incredible. We made two dive
completing our course in the water, then headed back to shore to take our final
written test. The written exam went well and by 5:30 were certified
divers.
For dinner we went to the Argentinean grill, which we decided
was the best restaurant in the area after walking up and down the shore for
almost an hour looking for a good place to eat. We feasted on Shrimp and
Lobster and recounted our exciting times underwater.
We returned to Teguz this afternoon after a morning of frenzied
souvenir shopping by Jennifer and Mom. After landing in Teguz we hopped
into a taxi, went to the Peace Corps Office to get our "mountain cloths", and
then went to a bus stop to wait for a bus that would take us into the mountains
where we would be spending the weekend. Everything went incredibly
smoothly with the only real hitch coming with the bus. It was packed by
the time we got on it and Jen was the only one to get a seat. The people
were so nice an a guy gave up his seat for Mom who was content to stand in the
isle with me, so Jennifer took the seat. The two and a half hour trip took
us through Valle de Angeles and then on to our destination, San Juancito, which
is located at the base of a large mountain where the national park is located.
We got off the bus and went to a local "restaurant" where the
woman there walkie-talkied the German guy at the top of the mountain to come
down and pick us up. The "German guy" whose name is Jörg, came down in his
truck (the only one on the mountain) and gave us ride up to his
bed and
breakfast in the mountains. We settled in while Jörg fixed us a
wonderful dinner of homemade Pizza, wine, and lemon grass tea. After
dinner wee enjoyed a breath taking view of the
valley at night.
We went to bed early where mom finished her 5th book on the trip.
We got up really early to watch the
sunrise from our desk.
It was beautiful and totally worth getting up early for, but we all went back to
bed and slept for another couple of hour to try to recover from our travels.
We had a wonderful breakfast of toast, homemade jams, cream cheese, cheese, and
coffee. Around noon we started off into the park for a trek up to the
waterfall. The trip there was beautiful and we took our time stopping to
admire
the view on our way to the
waterfall.
It was really incredible to be in the cloud forest, walking through the thick
vegetation, and stopping to looked at various plants and flowers. See
update letter #23 for more details of
this vacation. The trip took a total of four and a half hours, we walked
about 6 miles, and got wet on the way home as it started raining about 45
minutes before we got back.
For dinner we had homemade vegetable soup that Jörg made from
vegetables that he had hand picked from his garden.
We left after another wonderful breakfast and had Jörg drive us
down to Valle de Angeles. In Valle we checked into another B&B and then
went into the town center to go to Mass. We were a little late for Mass
and due to the local fair going on in town we got stuck without anywhere to sit.
After Mass we went to a local restaurant and had "anafre"
which is refried beans with cheese melted into them with fried tortilla chips
prepared in a traditional "anafre" or grill (as it is translated) which is a
clay pot that is heated underneath with small pieces of charcoal. After
our "snack" we went next door and had ice cream.
I tagged along while Mom and Jennifer did some shopping in the
local art shops looking for souvenirs. We also stopped by and visited with
a local teacher who trains the local woodcrafters on how to make local wooden
art pieces. We had commissioned him a month earlier to make us a large
carved wooden box, which was absolutely beautiful, and was ready to send home
with Mom.
We spent the evening finding a way to get the chest up to the
B&B and buying supplied to package it up for the trip home. After
exhausting ourselves looking for a car, one of our friends offered up her
nephew's back as a means of transporting this large trunk up hill to the B&B.
Jen and I were extremely nervous about him dropping it and breaking it, but he
was strong as a mule and hiked it up to the B&B with out a problem on his
shoulder.
We headed back down to Tegucigalpa this morning. I met one
of the B&B owner's neighbors, Mr. Lee, who I paid to transport me and the trunk
down to Teguz while Jennifer and Mom took the bus. Mr. Lee was a very
interesting person in that he was a Chinese immigrant who moved to the us 25
years ago, lived in the U.S. 21 years and then moved to Honduras in protest of
the liberal direction the country has taken. He now owns a hotel, a
Honduran bride, and a 24 month old child. He is very happy here. He
has a small Toyota Corolla and we were just barely able to fit the trunk in the
back seat.
Once we all arrived at the Peace Corps office, Jen and Mom
arrived shortly after I did, we packaged up the trunk and some gift we were
sending home, helped mom pack all her stuff up, and packed another large
suitcase to send home stuff we were finished using here in Honduras and still
wanted to have when we got back to the states.
We checked into the Maya hotel, then headed off to eat lunch at
our favorite Chinese restaurant. After lunch we went to the mall briefly
to check out the movies and decided that we could just go back to the hotel and
watch TV. with the same effect since the movie selection had nothing
interesting.
We spent the evening talking about our trip and went to be kind
of early still pretty exhausted from our walk two days earlier.
We packed all our bags, the trunk, and ourselves into a van
(taxi) and headed to the air port. After some problems with checking in
the luggage (the trunk was too big, too heavy, and a third piece of luggage), we
checked in our bags and were singing a happy tune. There were several
moments when we weren't sure if we were going to be able to send the trunk and
it's contents at all.
When mom was safe and sound in the terminal waiting for her
plane, we headed out to the bus station to try to make it back to Concepción by
the end of the day. We hopped on a bus to Choluteca and made it there
about an hour before the last bus for Concepción leaves. While Jen went
and looked for some lost packages that seem to have been eaten by the Honduran
mail system, I went to our local "liquado"
shop to order us a couple of
baleadas and a couple of liquados.
After a quick snack we got the last bus to Concepción and
endured the 3 hour ride back which seemed painfully slow for some reason and
arrived home at 7 PM, we had left Teguz at around 12:30 pm.
We spent the day recovering from our travels, relaxing and
talking about how we were both really home sick today. Being back in our
site is kind of overwhelming and it is really difficult to be here today.
This seems to happen whenever we come back from traveling outside our site.
It is not that we don't like it here it is just that the transition from being
"modern" Roatan or Tegucigalpa to being in Concepción is really difficult.
We spent most of the day relaxing and reading.
Still recovering today and thinking about just going home.
I'm in a funk like never before and today is a really hard day to be living
here. I feel like I just want to get on with our lives. I realize
however that this is my life and if I move through it too quickly I'll be old
and dead wishing I had lived life more fully.
Jen and I played scrabble and I finally won, the turning point
of the game being when I spelled the word "returned" using all 7 of my letter
for an extra 50 points.
We are still not fully recovered or adjusted to being back in
our house. We made home made chicken soup with a soup starter Jen's mom
had sent us. The soup was very good and we even used a green pumpkin that
I had growing in the garden.
While Fema, our laundry lady, did our laundry by hand for three hours
(we had a lot of laundry and paid her 3 times the
normal rate which was equal to about $3.75 U.S.), we cleaned out our bedroom.
For the last few weeks before my mom came Jennifer has been getting bit at night
by some kind of mite. So we took everything out of the bed room,
fumigated, set the mattresses out in the sun (which is supposed to kill or drive
the little buggers our), swept, and laundered all our sheets. We'll see if
this drives them out. For good measure we sprayed the mattress and box
spring with bug repellent as well.
Today was our Month-A-Versary. I cut Jen some fresh
flowers from the garden while she made us bbq'd meatballs and mashed potatoes
with fried green pumpkin slivers. It was all very good.
In the afternoon we went swimming in the river with the neighbor
kids, and went to Mass.
In the evening we had a game night and invited the neighbor kids
over to play "memory" and "UNO". This was particularly exciting for me as
3 as three of the adult from the family joined us as well. We have noticed
that the parents and adults do not really play with the kids here. We are
trying to introduce and gently push the idea that family social time is
important and maybe start some traditions that will carry on after we have left.
We made three batches of pop corn and a gallon of tang to feed our 10 visitors.
We were invited to go to the Evangelical church this morning
with our neighbors. We went since we were able to go to Mass the night
before and were curious to see what their services were like. It was
interesting and pretty much along the line I thought it would be. There
was lots of singing although it appears they are need of someone with a little
musical background to lead and play the music as the piano player didn't know
any of the songs and the one or two he did he had to stop playing because the
song leader wouldn't take the notes he gave her.
We also went to keep everyone on their toes. By 3 pm Matt
came by to visit and had already hear that we were switching churches and giving
up our Catholic faith. I told Jennifer next week we could visit the
Baptist church and keep them all guessing. One of the things about living
in a small town is that everyone seems to know what is going on, where you go,
who you visit with, and what you do our side of your house, and even if they
don't know for sure they will make up a story so they sound like they do.
In the afternoon Jen made chocolate chip cookies.
We had an unexpected guest show up in the late afternoon.
A distraught father (actually the kids uncle) came by looking to see if we would
speak to his son (nephew) and try to figure out with him. After picking
him up at the police station his dad brought him by our house.
Douglas is
15 years old, in the 5th grade, and like to run away to places like Nicaragua,
Choluteca, Tegucigalpa, and San Pedro Sula; some of the most dangerous areas of
the country. We talked to Douglas for about an hour and a half and
introduced him to "UNO" which we played while we talked. Douglas's mom ran
off the U.S. several years ago leaving him and his 4 siblings (who are scattered
all over Honduras) here to fend for themselves. Douglas lives with his
uncle, who brought him over, who is at his wit's end trying to understand why
this teenage boy keeps leaving town with no warning. His uncle told us
that Douglas will just up and leave at the drop of a hat with what ever he has
on his back, with no money, even no shoes.
It was apparent when talking to Douglas that there were several
factor involved in his sudden flights. He seems to have some kind of
learning disability and gets tremors when he tries to write anything.
Although he is 15 years old he is still in 5th grade, he seems to have some
emotional issues with his mom being gone, and in general seems to suffer from a
lack of self esteem.
We talked to Douglas' uncle and talked about some of the options
they had for dealing with his sudden flights, as well as the need to talk about
Douglas' feelings about his mom being gone. At this point in time I don't
know what else we could do for him other than mentor him. He seems like a
nice enough kids, but pretty badly scared from his mother abandoning him.
I got up at 4:30 am to work on this journal, which I have gotten
behind on with the recent vacation, but I am almost caught up. Jen and I
went for a walk at around 6 am. We worked on Update
Letter #23, which took most of the morning and went to the cooperative in
the afternoon.
Going to the cooperative was very exciting as we had left them
with several goals before we left for vacation. Some of those had been
accomplished and others were in the process of being finished. The
employees really seem to be excited about some of the changes that we have been
making as they have noticed an increase in sales and an easier environment to
work in. We have noticed that several products that were tucked away, that
we had set up displays for, were almost gone and things seemed to be selling
more quickly now that there are displays and that the shelves are more
organized. One item in particular, a metal grinder for corn, meat, and
other items, was an item that they had told me didn't sell very well and sold
maybe three or four a year. I couldn't understand this as everyone has to
grind their corn and some people walk hours to town with their corn to pay
someone else to grind it for them. I had set up a display of six of these
in an obvious spot where lot of people would see them, and in the last three
weeks they have sold five of the six.
We were also excited to hear that Jennifer counter part,
Venancio, is now the director of the entire cooperative. This is a great
change as he is very organized, has great business sense, and will be wonderful
to work with. It has been exciting to see the changes made and those
happening. They also told us they are in the process of buying a register,
a computer, and better lights for product displays (all suggestions we had made
for improvement a couple of months ago).
In the evening Matt stopped by to chat and told us he would be
leaving in the morning.
We went to the high school this morning to check in with our
English classes and talk to the new English teacher. The school hired a new
teacher and she seems really nice and excited to work, but she doesn't
have a degree or a teaching certificate. Which I guess isn't such a big
deal as Jen and I don't having teaching certificate either. We went over
what we had learned, passed out the tests the kids took before we left, and told
them we would be there one day a week to help them with pronunciation and other
English questions.
In the afternoon we went to the cooperative to work on
displaying products and a plan for getting rid of stuff that never sells to make
room for products people want. The told us that since we reorganized the
store sales are up. We were pretty excited to hear that. A great
example of this was some had grinder they had in stock, but kept hidden away.
I figured everyone and their brother would want one, since one of the daily or
weekly chores of some people or their kids is to walk into town and get a large
bowl of corn ground up so they can make tortillas. They have to pay
someone to do this and there are several stores in town that have electric
grinders. If they had a hand grinder in their house they could do it
themselves, save the money they spend, and have more time as some of them are
walking one or two hours just to get to town. I had asked how many of them
they sold in the last year and they said maybe 2 or 3. I just figured they
were too expensive for people. I had created a display that prominently
displayed the grinder and with in the two weeks while we were gone they had sold
5 of the 6 they had in stock. The next few weeks will be spent on the
importance of product display, sales, and promotion.
While Jennifer continued to work in the cooperative I met with
Douglas and we went to the library to play UNO and chat.
He was pretty happy today and seemed content on staying in town. Jen and I
have decided that he will be the focus of some of our attention here as we feel
called to be mentors for this young lost man. He had a great time playing
cards and as luck would have it our neighbors were at the library as well so we
had a half a dozen other kids to play with as well, which made it much more fun.
After the library Jen and I had Spanish tutoring at
Ruth's house. We
studied and talked and afterwards she fed us eggs and ham with bean and
tortillas. It was nice that after such a long day we didn't have to worry
about making dinner.
When we got home I worked on the web site a bit, made our new
favorite drink, lemon grass tea, and then worked a half hour on the new Spanish
tapes that we purchased to continue our learning.
We went to the high school again this morning, for all the good
the effort of getting out of bed was, and managed to teach one of our four
classes due to a civic act involving singing and a talent show of some sort.
After this apparently the director of the school said they would only have two
more classes so all our student who always have three classes which is one more
in this time frame of the day left. Now this wouldn't be so bad except I
went to their classroom and told them that we were having class and we would be
starting in a few minutes and not to leave.
In the afternoon we worked in the cooperative on creating more
displays and working on a daily cleaning schedule to keep all the products that
need to be stocked from becoming permanent fixtures on the floor instead of on
the shelf. We have a couple of employees who have it in their minds that
work means doing as little as possible.
In the evening we had dinner with my community partner to show
him a list of the activities we have done since we came to town. We invited
him over for dinner, gave him the list, and asked him what else we could be
doing to advance Concepción de Maria. The dinner was planned a few weeks
ago when we found out he was drafting a letter to Peace Corps asking for our
removal from the town since we "don't do anything". He had called
Jennifer's community partner, who works in the cooperative, and told him he
needed his signature to send the letter. This was right around the time we
were putting in about 60 hours a week most of which was spent in the
cooperative. Jen's community partner told him to pound sand as he didn't
agree with him and that we were in fact working very hard. I think we have
won him over to our side and he seemed genuinely surprised at all the activities
we are involved in. The long and short of his gripe is that he wants us to
work with his non governmental organization that he runs and find funding for
projects he want to do. I've told him several time I can assist with the
search, but I can't just pull money out of the magic "gringo" hat so he can do
his projects. I'm pretty sure he doesn't want us to leave any more, since he
asked if he could come visit us when we return to the states.
We went to El Peñon this morning and took
Douglas with us. He was teaching assistant as we introduced the older
kids to a world map and a map of the solar system and then assisted Jennifer
with finger painting in the kindergartener room. He was helpful, and loves
spending time with us. We told him we would be gone for a few days and he
said he was going to miss us and wasn't sure what he was going to do. He
just seems kind of lost. We told him to come by at 7:45 this morning and
he showed up around 6:30, which was kind of a surprise since in true Honduran
fashion he just walked right into the house, after which we had a little talk
about how some American customs like knocking on the door traveled the 4000
miles from Minnesota with us and is a standing house rule.
We sent Douglas home after El Peñon and for lunch BBQ'd chicken
on the grill with baked potatoes. Jen worked on email and I spent some
time cutting fire wood for our grill. When the neighbors got home we
roasted marshmallows over the grill. They all though it was really
fun and want to do it again soon.
In the evening we prepared to go to Choluteca. I put the
final touches on the website and turned in early as I was up at 4 AM again this
morning.
We left on the 6:30 AM direct bus to Tegucigalpa this morning
and arrived around 12 PM. We went to the Peace Corps office where we
waited for about an hour before getting a ride to the ambassadors house for the
swearing in ceremony of the new volunteers. The newest set of volunteers
are 53 strong and will be stationed in the south of Honduras, which we were
happy to hear since we will now have a few new neighbors.
After the swearing in party we went to dinner with a few of the
people that we went through training with at an Italian restaurant called "Tres
Fretelli". The food was ok and it was nice to see
some of our
friends from training. After dinner we met all the new volunteer and
many of the people we went through training with at a local restaurant and had a
small party to celebrate the new people making it through training and for us
having completed one year of service. It was pretty fun and it was again
nice to see people we went through training with.
Having stayed up past our normal bedtime the night before we
slept in until about 8:30 this morning. We had breakfast at a little
French restaurant across the street from the hotel, ran some errands in town,
and in the after noon we went to a Museum.
The National
Historic Museum of Honduras is located in Tegucigalpa and is inside a large
house that used to be owned by a woman and her husband who donated the land and
house and created a trust to maintain the museum. It was interesting to
see some of the historical points of Honduras and at the same time it was kind
of sad to see that there seemed to be a lot of missing information. It is
not like the U.S. where there are photos, drawings, artifacts, and such kept in
excellent condition or restored. For example the
presidential cars
were on display, but were stored outside and were in kind of bad shape. We
went to the museum with Matt
and his roommate.
In the evening we went to the Peace Corps Honduras Country
Director's house for dinner with two other married couples and were treated to
grilled vegetables, chicken, pork, and other yummy treats. It was nice to
go visit him and his family as they live in a beautiful house and prepared an
incredible meal for us.
We went to Matt's house afterwards and spent the night there.
We got up early and went to the Cathedral in the center of town
for Mass. We had breakfast again at the French place and had little
quiches and chocolate filled pastries. We then set out on our 6 1/2 hour
bus ride home. After getting home we relaxed, read, and recuperated from
the long bus ride.
There were no classes today as Saturday was a holiday.
This something I have a hard time understanding, but if there is a holiday
that falls on the weekend the teachers take Friday, Saturday or both days off of
work because the holiday didn't fall on a weekday.
We went to the river with our neighbors and swam there, had
lunch, and played with the kids. It was nice and refreshing.
In the afternoon I worked on the website. I was also happy
to have received a letter from Jayne Woodburn from Delong Middle school in Eau
Claire, WI who wrote to tell me that she wanted to work with us on a
cultural/geography lesson with her kids. It will be nice to have so many
little pen pals from the states writing.
We went for a walk with
Ruth
this morning as part of our weekly exercise routine. We have been trying
to walk or do other kind of exercise at lease 4 time a week lately. We had
classes and are team teaching with the new teacher to introduce new material and
help with pronunciation of words.
In the afternoon we worked at the cooperative where I worked an
older computer that wasn't working. I got it up and running and now just
have to install an operating system and a few other thing and we can use it for
our computer class that we will be starting at the cooperative next week.
The modem on my laptop has gone out and we feel like we are in
lala land not being able to send or receive email or connect to the internet.
We have really come to rely on our laptop for communication and such here.
I drove four hours to Choluteca to connect to the internet using my Ethernet
port instead, and to arrange for a new part to be shipped from Dell back in the
U.S. All went fairly well except when I tried calling Dell back in the
afternoon I wasn't able to use the voice over IP function on my computer as the
network was running too slowly. We have a yahoo phone card that allows us
to make phone calls inside the U.S. from our computer when it is connected to
the internet at a reasonable rate, but you have to have a good connection to be
able to use it. I used it earlier in the day and it worked well, but as
the afternoon hours came everything slowed down. So I wasn't able to
complete my call to Dell to have them send me the part I need.
I also went grocery shopping and checked the post office for
mail. I had received a package from my friend
Adam who sent me some books on Java scripting
and a couple of CDs with books and software on it.
I got back on the bus and headed home around 2 pm where I had to
stand about 1/2 the way as the bus was soooo full with people who had also gone
grocery shopping that day.
We traveled to El Peñon this morning to give a health talk to
the children in the elementary school about
the importance of washing their hand and how to do so properly. Each child
was given a cartoon worksheet to help them remember how to wash their hands and
keep track of how often they washed them and was also given a bar of soap as
well. The community of El Peñon is very poor and they have so very little.
Some of the children said they didn't have soap in their homes as it was not
something they could afford.
Douglas went with us to El Peñon and was a good helper.
In the afternoon we visited the cooperative again to work on
more inventory control methods and to continue to restore a computer that wasn't
working there.
I'm feeling kind of sick today. My trip to Choluteca is
coming back to me. I sucked up a lot of dust on the ride home and I think
I am getting a sinus infection. In trying to complete my mission to
replace the modem on my laptop I tried calling Dell using my phone card and was
told that the 1-800 number I was using to call my phone card would not talk to
the 1-800 number supplied by Dell because they were on different telephone
networks and they block each other's phone calls. How this happens in the
year 2002 I don't know.
I talk to Rafael Mayorga
who told me I could use his computer to call and that he would download the
software I needed to make the call.
In the evening we played games with the neighbors. We had
invited Douglas to come over and play with us, but he never showed up and we
started to wonder what happened to him since he is usually early for anything we
invite him to. We were going to work on English for an hour and then play
cards. We taught the neighbor girls a new game called "phase 10" which
some of them got.
I'm still not feeling very good today in fact I feel worse.
I hate being sick! I laid in a hammock most of the day and read "Giants in
the Earth" by O.E. Rovaag. A very interesting tale about Norwegian
immigrant who settle in South Dakota. Jennifer has been very good to me
and been taking good care of me since I am sick.
I wandered over to Rafael's house and after 80 minutes on the
internet my modem will be shipped on Monday to my parents house and then they
will send it to us. I just hope this works.
Jennifer worked on a going away present for our neighbors of a
small scrapbook.
Douglas' uncle stopped by to tell us that Douglas was missing.
He disappeared yesterday and no one knows where he is. He stopped by to
see if we knew where he was and if we saw him to send him home.
We went to church this morning. I am still pretty sick,
and don't have to energy to do much more than sit and type or read. We
went to the Mayorga's after church and visited with
Rafael, Azucena, and Rafa. They were
very kind and let us use their phone to call my mom in the US, and even fed us
lunch.
In the afternoon I worked on my Journal and the website.
Douglas stopped by around dinner time to tell us he had been found. It
turns out he was 1/2 hour away staying with an aunt in a neighboring community.
We invited him in and decided to try out some of what we had learned from the
book "How to make your children mind without loosing yours" by Dr. Kevin Lehman.
The book focuses on a concept called reality discipline, or allowing children to
experience the consequences of their action and not protecting them from them so
that they learn their life lessons early. With Douglas we told him is he
runs again and skips out on an English class again we just won't have them.
He also inquired about learning the card game and I told frankly that we learned
the new game on Friday and had he been here he would have learned the game too.
So far he really hasn't felt any consequences for his action and
I'm not sure what consequences could be imposed on him as it stands, besides
limiting activities with him when he decides to run off, however this is
difficult and seems almost counter productive.
I had the next four days finished and they were exceptional, but
the program crashed and I lost it all so now you get the short version. On
Sunday we made a check list to keep us on task and to help us to complete all
the tasks that we would like to finish for the day. We finished up the
list today. Many of the items were simple things that would have gotten
done weather we had put them on the list or not. We finished all of them
by the end of the day and felt very productive.
The check list had things like: